Really overdid myself Saturday, and got up to finish the projects this morning. Still, I've got some ideas on how to plan a better event while pacing myself, because of course the end goal is for me to have visitors and NOT overdo it. And I was epically glad that Tallcat clambered up onto the bed, because that gave me an excuse to climb aboard as well. It's the most comfy place I have in my house, painkillers aside. For the future, I need to make sure everyone reads the 'house rules' so they feel comfortable making their own drinks and snacks, and I plan on having an area (just bought a small folding table online) that makes it easier for them to do so. I need to work on my 'mini-tour' such as it is. Sure, it's one room, but I can explain where glasses & silverware are, or towels for spills, and how to work the remote control. It's impossible for me to play the traditional host-to-guest role without overdoing it (and paying for it later or the next day), so I want people to feel extra welcome, especially when it comes to the kitchen. If I can't feed people directly, they have to feel comfy raiding my fridge.
Had a bunch of late cancellations, which was a bit of a downer at first (until I realized I had a bag full of fresh biscotti, anyway) but it still was a nice dry run. I'd been debating the "booze or not" question and decided in favor of booze so long as it's special (i.e. esoteric) or served hot. If I start doing an iced tea (say, next summer) I'll consider some kind of cold alcoholic beverage, like mojitos or a specialty punch. This also gives me incentive to keep pushing ahead with the redecorations. This place is really going to develop from week to week.
Comprehensive List of Tasks
- strength exercises = nope
- chores = yup, changed to new sheets for the party, made the bed, picked up a little, and vacuumed the floor cushions and couch
- grooming = yes
- meal (2 prep/1 smoothie) = yes, finished the crostinis, made salsa & guacamole, and also had my smoothie tonight
- nap / rest = no, I did not. In fact, I drank so much tea I'm not sure how Sunday naptimes are going to work out. Will have to switch up with white teas and herbal tisanes.
- Spanish = no *hangs head* I been bad.
- I also didn't do the optional SMART meeting, just a little revved up still. I think it's going to be Tuesday before I'm really on the ball.
Medication = yes
Sober / No Compulsions = fail, still on ebay finishing up the auctions (thankfully done with that expensive little phase) and still shopping for tea party stuff online
TOTAL SCORE = 7 /11 = 64% could've been better, I would have exercised if I had not overdone it yesterday
If you can't find a tribe, make a tribe. Every book I read tells me to find my tribe, whoever and whatever that may be. Sure, it's gonna be hard in DC, but I ought to be able to eke out enough people eventually, right?
Allow people to be. And RELAX. It's hard for me to just relax, to let things unwind as they should, especially when the plan starts to veer from an expected path. Right now I don't have an optimal setup for this Sunday event, so I'm a bit more hyper-vigilant about it rather than just letting it grow organically. I want my home to feel like this is just the place to be on Sunday, like heading to your favorite bar at happy hour or home for the holidays. "Sunday is just the day we go to Jade's house." Like that. Now, obviously not everyone will be here every Sunday, but I want it to feel like the comfortable fallback position when you aren't sure what you want to do but you want to do something that involves other people.