I abdicated all my life because I was sick, which only led to depression and resentment toward my mate for not either a) helping/encourage me to do more, or b) not doing absolutely everything for me and taking care of me. I'm working now to reach that fine balance of doing as much as I can for myself, despite my illness.
At heart I am independently natured, and if I don't do this I will die. Hopefully, my S/o will also learn how to be encouraging and persistent (the positive form of nagging) because that will be more helpful to me long-term than if he just does stuff for me.
My responsibilities currently are:
take my meds
straighten kitchen at night
order groceries etc. online (the only house chore I was still keeping on top of) and put up said groceries (with some hit or miss results there)
self-care grooming, which I hope to improve to daily as time goes by (also some hit-or-miss, when you've been disabled or depressed for awhile, regular grooming is a monumental chore; I think I brush my hair every couple of days at best)
So, today is day one and I did kitchen and meds plus my reading goal. We'll see how it goes from here.